These are just some of the most. It’s not that you’ve never felt any of them before.
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It’s more like on a scale of 1 to 10, the intensity of each is a 20. And, you’re experiencing them all at the exact same time, which feels debilitating and frightening. When I was going through, there were times I wondered if I was going insane. And other times, I’d even have a fleeting question about whether I’d be better off if I took my own life. These aren’t funny emotions and isn’t (necessarily) a source of comedy. But what if you could laugh (at least a little) about your situation or someone else’s?
It's OK to find something funny about what’s going on — even if it’s. Heck, especially if it’s at your ex’s expense!
Research studies tell us time and again about. We're told, with plenty of physical, mental and social benefits to laughter including: attracting others to us, easing anxiety and fear, and lowering stress hormones. (And who couldn’t use that while dealing with divorce?) But, did you know that laughter can actually help dissipate anger? In fact, comedians frequently use their. By finding the funny in your divorce, you’ll be and give yourself a boost of feel-good hormones.
And I don’t know anyone who’s going through divorce that couldn’t. So, all the data’s here. Laughing about your divorce is GOOD for you. But, if you’re still not sure you can find something funny about it, here are some. Karen Finn is a divorce coach and divorce survivor herself. She works with people who are wondering how they’ll and if they’ll ever be happy again.
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First time posting? So I am not sure if this is positive or healthy thinking. I stopped feeling sorry for myself and started feeling sorry for my ex. Yes, I'm still grieving over the death of my marriage, but then there's this dark side of me that's just laughing hysterically.
At the end of the day, I don't have to live with her. Now, she has to live with herself. Now, she has to deal with the guilt that comes with infidelity. Now, she has to raise her 7 year old son without my help (I was part of his life since he was 2). Now, she has little to no support from her family as they reside more with me. I can keep listing things, but I'm not here to bash my ex. I've intentionally left out most of the juicy details so I can focus more on my recovery, but I am open to answering questions if need be.
Point is, I know I'm supposed to stay positive. At the very least, I've accepted that this kind of satisfaction is temporary, but does this count as being positive? Am I heading in the right direction or is this destructive? Progress: I've stopped feeling sorry for myself, am taking ownership of my life, and I am finding ways to be happy on my own terms. Not progress: I compare my wellness and happiness to my ex or anyone else, or think about the shame, regret or negativity that my ex might be feeling as a result of what they've done to me or to themselves. The single best bit of advice I've ever read on this subreddit: divorce means this is your life now.
Own it and give it the compassion and care it deserves. Letting go of the past is really, really hard. It takes daily practice. It sounds like you're getting there. For me (ex is a serial cheater) seeing his things was hard - they were all tainted with his choices to cheat and then not do the work to reconcile. Everything I associated with just him I recoil from. I'm still in the house we shared and I'm feeling all the good memories and all the fun I brought into the house, while he was busy with his latest or angry at me that he felt so bad.
All the things I wanted, I loved, I shared with our kids (or even shared with him) are MINE. Go into that door and remember how happy you were.
Was there someone else there? You'll think about that less and less as time goes on, and keep the good thoughts as YOURS. Also rearrange some stuff, paint a little.
There wasn't any sense, for me, of ok now I get to finally do what I want - I was always honest and open about what I wanted. A lot of it never happened because he wasn't interested in home improvement, or most home maintenance (too busy with the latest sex affair and all the grooming the next chatroom young women for when the current one got boring). So I'm doing all of it now and working very hard to view it as me, doing it now. I don't want to dwell on how I didn't in the past - that's the past.
This got long - HTH. Great question. I think it's definitely a mix, depending on the memory. For me it's a lot more seeing things that remind me of him. The same car that he just got before I left, his favorite movie at the library. When I have been back at our old house it was weird to see things that were missing, and things that were still there. But being there made me feel really icky, and it was disgusting because he's disgusting (frosting on the comforter, pizza boxes all over the floor, etc).
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It's more when I'm gone, I think I miss the idealized version of him and the good memories in isolation. I know if I were to go back, he'd immediately start annoying me, my gut would be screaming at me. Can you visit while she's gone before you officially move in? Just for a little bit, to desensitize a little and prepare yourself for moving back? Also, arranging things in a new way, buying new wall hangings/clock, new furniture.
Make it different enough that it doesn't remind you of what was!